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Thursday, October 8, 2015

You Aren't That Important

...and neither am I.

There is a title that will encourage everybody to read this post! Nevertheless, it's true. That being said, you would never know it from how most people act and react.

Back in the day, a much less sensitive day when I was much younger, men and boys spoke about "stepping on each other's dicks." While I admit it is perhaps not the most politically correct terminology I believe it has some merit. Obviously, in order to be able to step on someone else's dick they have to expose it to you or else you have to go to a great deal of effort to gain access to it. One doesn't simply accidentally step on someone else's dick. Yet there have always been plenty of people more than willing to cast their penis upon the shores that unsuspecting beachgoers might trample it, at which point they shout "look what you did!"

Perhaps we all have some degree of tendency toward this behavior. However, it was in full view during the Pope's recent visit to the United States. When word came out that the Pope allegedly had a private audience with Kim Davis, the Kentucky woman who has achieved notoriety for refusing to issue marriage licenses to gay couples, the Internet exploded with criticism of the Pope. An article on HuffingtonPost called him "a coward" and stated that he had betrayed the gay community, that his entire visit to the United States had been rendered meaningless by what was only an alleged private audience with Kim Davis. There was no waiting for facts, there was simply immediate judgment. When the truth came out that she and her lawyer had been slipped into the back of the room that the Pope essentially passed through and that the only private audience the Pope granted during his visit to the United States was to a gay former student of his and that man's partner, there were no retractions, there were no apologies, there was simply a flurry of activity by what I call the "professional gays" in an attempt to get the rank and file even more worked up than they already were.

Interestingly, it tends not to be, at least on a visible level, the lesbian, bisexual, and transgender members of the LGBT community that engages in this irresponsible behavior. I do not know the significance of that, but I would suggest that it is indeed significant. Instead of praising the Pope for an affirming audience with a gay couple that in fact actually happened, the voices continued to scream about an alleged meeting that in fact didn't happen. Am I the only one who finds that odd? I am reminded of the story from my childhood about the Boy who Cried Wolf. Perhaps enthused about a recently found public voice, the loudest voices in the gay community seem to be spending a lot of their time tossing their dick down on the sidewalk and then carrying on endlessly when it gets stepped on. Sooner or later, credibility suffers. Sooner or later, part of being a member of mainstream culture is that you lose your special status. All of the things that went into giving you the strength to protest and agitate for change have to be dropped lest you become a clanging gong that is ignored.

Of course, it is not just the gay community that needs to learn this lesson. We all need to learn it whether we have been marginalized or not. We all need to come to understand that healthy life and a healthy society are in the end built around people who can see that everyone matters while at the same time understanding that we do not get to determine the agendas or the meeting schedules of high profile officials. If we engage in all or nothing thinking, which is always fallacious, to the point where we are willing to discount the good things that others do if they do but one thing that we disagree with, we will do little more than spin our wheels in the same place, wondering why we cannot progress.

Our spiritual communities sometimes reinforce that fallacious thinking by teaching fanciful ideas and doctrines that suggest if just one of us among 7 billion people on this planet have a thought then the universe is compelled to change so that it is in accordance with our thought. That is quite simply not the way the universe works and it doesn't matter whether I like it or not. Teachings around humility are not popular because they fly in the face of our ego - the very same ego we must deconstruct to become healthy individuals. When spirituality props up that ego, suggesting that it has the power to rule the world, it does us a tremendous disservice. We would be much better served by learning that none of us are all that important, that people who are endlessly and exclusively critical while having nothing good to say about anything or anybody are eventually ignored, and that change happens when we come together and work together to make it happen.


  1. Your views are distorted. The statement " the universe is compelled to change so that it is in accordance with our thought. " Fits your delusion that Islam is compatible with the real Christ or the Bible.

    1. If you find Islam incompatible with Christianity, you need to investigate Islam more deeply - and also Christianity. I suspect you suffer from a superficial understanding of both.