There's an ad on Facebook for church growth and small groups that says, "If he's connected, he's five times more likely to stay" Here's a radical idea: offer a living spirituality that works instead of the hell fire and brimstone lies that you are selling and then "he" will *want* to stay rather than you needing to guilt him into staying through his fellow small group members. Of course, my proposal requires honesty, integrity, the willingness to allow questions to be asked, the humility to admit that none of us has all the answers, and the self confidence to function in the ambiguity involved in the real world...I may be asking way too much of fundamentalists! It's worth a shot, anyway... http://amplify.com/u/a19g3u