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Wednesday, October 11, 2017

Sex and the Spiritual Teacher

I confess, I have had enough. I have had enough of students and teachers of all spiritual stripes - but especially Buddhists - claiming that a teacher can still be a good teacher, still impart good information, even still be fully enlightened "in some areas," (which, it seems to me, is rather like being partly pregnant), even though they have sexually assaulted students.


Sorry, Charlie, it simply isn't possible. Nobody, not even one person, who is even the slightest bit enlightened, sexually assaults a student. I hasten to mention, though everyone should know by now. that even an unwanted touch is a sexual assault. When Zen Master Grabbalot gropes students in dokusan, he is sexually assaulting them and needs to be removed. It doesn't matter how "good" his teaching is. His most profound teaching (his actions) reveal him to be a predator. If his teaching stories seem good, it's because he has memorized them from other sources. He himself has no insight whatsoever. If he did, he wouldn't be raping his students.

Odd, isn't it, that nobody ever said of a pedophile Roman Catholic priest, "yes, but he said SUCH a good Mass!"Yet western Buddhists line up to defend teachers like Joshu Sasaki, Sogyal Rinpoche, Chogyam Trungpa Rimpoche, and hosts of others. The same people cry out that they would never enter a Catholic Church again keep running right back to the Shambhala Center, founded by Trungpa Rinpoche and gobble up the teachings of this man who repeatedly assaulted his students. On the other hand, I guess if all else fails, Harvey Weinstein can still become a Zen Master. 

Thursday, September 14, 2017

Truth



  • Every great religious tradition contains truth, but none of them contain only truth or all truth.
  • Only ego, hubris, and fear would lead someone to claim their religion is completely true.
  • Every religion was made by human beings.
  • Looking into practices of other traditions does not constitute disloyalty to your own.
  • Refusal to consider another point of view isn't loyalty, it's voluntary ignorance.

Monday, September 4, 2017

At a Crossroad

To be completely honest, I find myself at a crossroad. In one direction there is what I want to call "Truncated Religion and Spirituality,: or "TRS." TRS is nothing more than the result of living in fear impacting the beliefs that people hold. That fear leads them to narrow their focus to those beliefs which reassure them to the exclusion of the full depth and richness of their religion. If they are afraid of other traditions, they will focus on those aspects of their own which are critical of outsiders to the exclusion of those teaching people to welcome the stranger and the outsider. If they are afraid of not having enough materials things, they will focus on passages promising wealth to the exclusion of those promoting charity. If they are afraid of change, they will see only those teachings that encourage them to preserve tradition. If the status quo isn't serving them well, they will look only to those teachings that encourage moving forward without delay. Under TRS, despite the fact that TRS nearly always claims undying loyalty to the tradition, much of the tradition is in fact discarded and the new, narrower vision is put forth as orthodox - despite the fact that it is almost completely heterodox.

In another direction is maintaining the status quo. While in other times that may have seemed a reasonable approach, the status quo is clearly decaying. In Christian circles, mainline religion has the equivalent of a sucking chest wound. While most official representatives occupy their time scurrying about criticizing new movements rather than looking to reform what isn't working in their own (the spiritual equivalent of rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic), their members are scurrying out the door in an effort to escape before the ship capsizes. At this point band-aid therapy is ineffective, and nobody seems willing to sign consent for the major surgery required to patch up the wound.

I also reject the popular, but intellectually vacuous, opposite of the status quo: neo-atheism. I have yet to encounter a neo-atheist who addresses anything but fundamentalist forms of religion and belief. That they do so with an evangelistic zeal strikes me as the utmost in irony. Add to it their tendency to equate the Divine with one's imaginary friend - a kind of ad hominem against God, if you will - and I can't really take them seriously. One simply can't assert that deconstruction alone constitutes a belief system, because in the end it doesn't leave you with anything. Replacing spirituality with science really isn't an answer, because there are many phenomena that we can neither measure or observe - and those that we can are, in fact, changed by the fact that we observe them.

As you know, for some time now I have identified myself as Interspiritual. Our local community here in Milwaukee, the Compassionate Heart Interspiritual Community, celebrates the commonalities among the great religious traditions, what has been called perennial wisdom or the perennial tradition. Recently I came across another term to describe the journey of interspiritual people: Spiritual Independents. I like that quite a bit. Whatever you want to call it, it is my spiritual home. I no longer believe that any one tradition has a monopoly on Truth - nor do I believe any of the great traditions are bereft of Truth. That isn't to say they are all the same, but it is to say they all have value. I have learned that there are some things each tradition does very well, and others where they could use some improvement - and those things are different in each tradition. I have also learned that I no longer see any value in debating the relative merits of this or that path, or in the pissing contests that pass for theological debate in the west. The result is that, while I am happy to participate in an honest exchange of experiences and practices that respects the dignity of all participants, I am not interested in arguing (to paraphrase George Carlin) about whose version of god has a bigger penis.

Many of the groups within each tradition seem to see it as their primary duty to declare which other groups are not legitimate members of the tradition. What a waste of time! Our religion and spirituality exist to help us understand and live in our world. Getting caught up in all of these arguments is rather like going to a movie and leaving after the trailers. Don't forget to silence your cell phones, and the large popcorn has free refills!

To be sure, some people aren't ready for the kind of transition I am writing about, and others have moved beyond it to something else. As for me, this is where I am on my journey. Locally, Compassionate Heart Community will be hosting several opportunities over the coming months to learn more about being a spiritual independent. I will also be looking for ways you might join us virtually if you aren't in the local area. We will be working together to discover a path that allows us to grow with integrity. I hope you will join us!


Tuesday, August 15, 2017

Charlottesville and the Shame and Blame Game

In the aftermath of the tragedy in Charlottesville, I believe we have yet again seen the biggest reason we don't have change on significant social issues in America. The reason is that we are much more interested in playing the blame game than in working toward substantive change. The blame game is much easier than working for change, because it creates the illusion that we have done something when we haven't accomplished a thing. In that way, the blame game is a lot like Change.org and the other petition sites that try to tell us signing one of their petitions is a powerful action. In reality, nothing could be further from the truth.

Our love affair with blame is directly related to our love affair with shame. Shame is a toxic alternative to guilt, which is healthy. Guilt says, I did something wrong. Shame says, I am wrong, defective in my very being. Shame is used, to our detriment, every day by parents, managers, and
friends to control and manipulate others, and unfortunately many of us buy into it. You can hear it in our self-talk when we say things like, "I'm so stupid," or "I'm such a jerk," or "I can get anything right," and a host of other statements wherein we express our belief that we are not enough. One of the possible, and frequent, results is that we carry our shame and constantly look for places to dump that shame by projecting it onto others - which brings me back to Charlottesville and people's reaction to it.

One of the best examples of the blame game in the aftermath of Charlottesville was the statement that "all white people are responsible for Charlottesville." This is what a liberal shame dump looks like. Unless you are willing to say that all people of color are responsible for the kid of color who robs a convenience store, you can't say that all white people are responsible for Charlottesville. This tactic is all about people trying to move past what has happened as quickly as they can rather than looking at the real causes of tragedy and working to change them.

The Buddha is said to have taught about a man shot with a poison arrow. He said that if you are shot with a poison arrow, it's not the time to ask who shot it, what kind of poison it is, or where the arrow was made. Instead, you pull it out. The blame game keeps us focused on the past and not looking to what comes next, what we should do now. I can guarantee that the solution to any problem lies in the present moment, not in the past. The blame game operates completely in the past and keeps us stuck there. It is important to know how a problem developed, but it is much more important to work to solve the problem. To be successful at problem solving, we need to move from shame to a healthier understanding of ourselves and our actions.